I totally get it. I used Pinterest when I was planning my own wedding. I still use Pinterest to gather ideas for my business, keep track of articles I’d like to read when I have the time, and collaborate with other artists on projects like styled shoots. It’s a very helpful tool. The problem with Pinterest, however, is that there is too much. If you’re not careful, it can take your wedding and morph it into this three-headed monster that takes over your life.
So where do we go from here?
Pinterest has been around for as long as I’ve been a photographer. I can remember when Pinterest was invite-only; you had to know someone who knew someone to get in and use it. When Pinterest was a fledgling website void of ads and a thousand pins masquerading as something helpful, it was really fun to learn new things and organize by “pin boards.” Then someone got the bright idea to use it for a wedding and Pinterest exploded. Suddenly there was a whole category devoted to “weddings” and Pinterest was flooded with flowers and tulle.
This is awesome for someone just starting. Maybe you’ve just gotten engaged and you’re trying to figure out what sort of ceremony to have. Or maybe you’re daydreaming about your wedding while waiting on the necessary bling to happen. Whatever the case may be, Pinterest has a knack for showing brides and grooms AMAZING weddings that are hard to live up to.
Problem #1: Keeping Up With the Joneses
Here’s the biggest problem I as a photographer have with Pinterest: so many times a bride will come to me with a pin board of all the photos she wants captured and she says, “I want all of these to happen.” This is sort of helpful because it lets me know what sort of posing and styling she’s looking for, but it’s frustrating because it doesn’t really let me create–and it doesn’t let her have a wedding that is exquisitely hers. Instead of capturing something that is specific and custom to the couple, we spend the day trying to recreate other pictures–and that turns their wedding into someone else’s.
Problem #2: Unrealistic Expectations
Like pretty much everyone else, I LOVED Kim K’s flower wall. LOVED it. But unfortunately you’re not going to get a flower wall on a conservative budget. Pinterest likes to showcase luxury weddings, meaning chandeliers, flower walls, floor to ceiling drapery, uplighting, gowns that cost more than my house…you get the picture.
It’s easy to get swept up in the what ifs but at some point you have to step back and take a look at what is truly affordable, and prioritize. What is the most important to you? For some couples, it’s the party. For others, it’s the photography and videography. Do you really have your heart set on those matte pewter silverware settings, or can you cut back there in favor of something else that is splurge-worthy?
Problem #3: Hanging On To Every Pin
This is a piece of advice I give to every bride of mine who is using Pinterest (which is all of them): if you’re going to use Pinterest, allow yourself to go pin-crazy for a week or two, and then go back through your pin board and cull, cull, cull. Think about the big picture and what everything will look like together. In love with that lavender wedding cake but your bridesmaids are going to be in hot pink? Cull it and find another inspo photo that more closely matches. Are you swooning over those navy tuxes but your guy hates the idea of wearing a coat? Sit down with him and compromise. It’s so much easier for your vendors (especially your planner and/or coordinator) to get a sense of what you want when your vision is more concise.
Problem #4: DIY Danger
“I can totally pull together 200 pocket invitation suites by myself,” I’ve heard brides say. “I also need to check with the caterer, make sure my flowers are on time, keep everyone on schedule, do my final fitting, and make sure I have the little things that I might need at the wedding.”
“And when do you plan on doing all that?” I ask. So often I see brides trying to tackle Pinterest projects at the last minute only to become frustrated and stressed out, which leaves them scrambling to pull details together at the last minute–and forcing them to miss one of the most fun and awesome days of their lives. As a DIYer, I know the urge to want to do everything myself so that details are exactly as I picture them; however, as a bride, it is your responsibility to enjoy yourself. If you really have your heart set on DIYing a portion of your wedding, pick one Pinterest project that you really want to do and give yourself enough time to execute it properly. It also wouldn’t be a bad idea to hire a day-of coordinator or planner to help you stay on track.
All that being said, Pinterest isn’t the enemy.
I love Pinterest. I use mine daily to reign in all my ideas and projects. Pinterest is an amazing tool for brides to consolidate and clearly communicate their desires to the vendors they’ve hired. We love seeing all your ideas and talking to you about how we can incorporate some of those ideas into your wedding (“Well, we can’t exactly fit a full flower wall into your budget, but we can hire a calligrapher to create a stunning backdrop with some hand-drawn floral accents.”) Letting your vendors know what you want while still being open to alterations can make your wedding special, unique, and one-of-a-kind–instead of a carbon copy of a wedding you saw on Pinterest.
Agree? Disagree? How is Pinterest fitting into your wedding planning?